Some of us has no confident in relationship because they only see their weak point, have many experience of mockery or rejection, or compare themselves with others. Perhaps, our system teach us as if the one who deserved relationship was the one who had quality, and start to think that we do not have relationship because of low quality (financially, intellectually, physically).
This assumption makes us try harder to improve quality to seek approval to get nice relationship. The problem is that we sacrifice ourselves and we do not become ourselves. There is tendency to act poker face and sacrifice in order to be nice person.
If you love to do it, just do it. But the problem is that many nice guys forced themselves. They do not become themselves and seek approval. While it's the time to wide opportunity to have relationship with those who accept as they are, they become needy to the women who reject them.
This problem is called nice guy syndrome. You can google the information about Nice Guy Syndrome.
You deserve to love or to be loved as the way you are. You need self development but you do not need to kill your character.
See! Many non-handsome people and fat man also have harmony relationship. You do not need to be six-packed man to get love. if you want to have six-packed stomach, do it just for you and for your health. Do not do it to seek approval from others. You do not need to be rich man to love or to be loved by women. However, you need to improve your financial life but don't do it to get love. Don't curse yourself if you are not rich nor handsome.
You can learn to develop you character in relationship. But sometimes, relationship is not about quality. It is a gift through compatibility.
Learn and Learn. Be your best self!
Read also:
- A Deaf Cat Story: Someone Will Accept You as You Are
- A Blade Looking for Sheath: it's not about quality. It's about compatibility.
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